ADHD’s not just for kids; experts estimate that four percent of the adult population in the United States lives with the disorder. Some mask symptoms well; others find themselves in a state of constant disarray. For many, this spills over into romantic relationships.

Your marriage is far from doomed if you or your spouse has ADHD, but it may require a little additional nurturing. Read on to learn more about the role ADHD plays in marriage (and divorce), and how you can protect your relationship.

ADHD and Divorce: The Statistics

At first glance, the numbers look grim for adults with ADHD: researchers point to a relationship maladjustment rate of nearly 60 percent. Likelihood of divorce varies based on the spouse’s age; in one study, older respondents with ADHD were twice as likely to divorce, while younger respondents saw little change in divorce likelihood.

Why Does ADHD Harm Marriages? What Can You Do About It?

As a spouse with ADHD (or married to somebody with ADHD) you’re by no means destined to divorce. However, you’ll face unique challenges that other couples easily avoid. Chief among these? Spats over cleanliness, missed deadlines, and general inattention. Non-ADHD spouses may assume that their significant other just doesn’t care. Those with ADHD are also more prone to impulsive behaviors such as drug use, gambling, or infidelity —all of which clearly cause marital conflict.

Research indicates that your marriage is far more likely to survive if you seek diagnosis and treatment. This doesn’t necessarily mean medication, although drugs prove helpful for some adults with ADHD. Others find greater success in therapy and behavioral changes (such as dietary restrictions or increased exercise). Both you and your spouse should research the disorder thoroughly to determine how it manifests itself in your marriage, and which steps can be taken to combat problematic symptoms.

As a spouse with ADHD, you need compassionate counsel from somebody who understands. Call the Brown Law Offices today to schedule your consultation; you’ll be relieved to have an understanding lawyer on your side.

The best spouses know how to listen. As you discovered in our last post, it’s not as easy as it seems. In this portion of our two-part series, we offer several additional resources to draw upon in your quest to improve your listening skills.

Psychology Today: Deep Listening in Personal Relationships

This article from Diane Raab explores the research on deep listening and how it can transform relationships. Raab reminds readers that listening is contagious —and that, while some people are natural listeners, this is typically an acquired skill.

Forbes: 10 Steps to Effective Listening

Let Forbes break down listening for you in the clearest and most concise manner possible. After this quick read, you’ll know exactly what it takes to be a good listener.

Dr. Phil’s Six Rules for Talking and Listening

When in doubt, look to Dr. Phil for help. In this Oprah.com feature, he offers tactics for becoming a two-way communicator. He insists on establishing your motive, telling it like it is, and checking in with your spouse on a regular basis. He offers clear examples of active listening, which can transform your relationship.

The Lost Art of Listening: How Listening Can Improve Relationships

Therapist Mike Nichols knows a thing or two about the damage caused by a spouse’s failure to listen. In his award-winning book, Nichols offers easy-to-learn techniques for amping up your listening game. You’ll learn the art of deep listening and apply it to every aspect of your life.

The Zen of Listening: Mindful Communication in the Age of Distraction

Grounded in the spirit of mindfulness, this transformative book will convince you to embrace the all-encompassing practice of listening. Implement its tenets into daily life, and you’ll be amazed by how quickly your relationships improve.

Listening is like a muscle; it takes time and effort to strengthen this essential ability. Commit yourself to being a better listener, and you just might avoid the pitfalls that ended your last relationship.

Don’t settle for an attorney who doesn’t listen to your concerns. The Brown Law Offices, P.A. is the perfect resource for your difficult situation. Get in touch today to learn more.

Effective communication is the foundation of any working relationship. It’s particularly important in marriage, and yet, many couples struggle to truly listen to one another. Thankfully, it’s possible to build this skill over time. If poor listening contributed to your marriage’s demise, take action now to save future relationships. These resources will help:

Julian Treasure: 5 Ways to Listen Better

In this useful TED talk, sound expert Julian Treasure shares several quick fixes to improve conscious listening. Implement this actionable advice into your life ASAP to recalibrate your senses and improve your relationships.

The Power of Listening

Another TED presentation worth checking out: William Ury’s talk from TEDx San Diego. The co-founder of Harvard’s Program on Negotiation, Ury understands the transformative impact listening can have in personal relationships and on a broader scale. This presentation will inspire you to join the listening revolution.

TED Radio Hour: The Act of Listening

When in doubt, turn to TED. This podcast and radio show compiles the best moments from talks on listening that…make you sit up and listen. After this podcast, you’ll understand how listening can transform your life.

Tony Robbins: Skills For Every Relationship

Inspirational guru Tony Robbins believes that you cannot succeed in a relationship until you master these key skills: selection and connection. He claims that the happiest spouses are each others’ ‘raving fans.’ You’ll learn how to pay attention and cheer on your spouse in this nine-minute clip from one of Robbins’ presentations.

Listen: The Movie

No, this movie is not about listening in marriage. Yes, it can still empower you in your next relationship. This film will convince you to make a difference in whatever small way you can — beginning with your spouse and your family.

Listening is key to a successful attorney-client relationship. With the team from the Brown Law Offices, P.A. in your corner, you can feel confident that your every concern is heard. Reach out at your earliest convenience to schedule a case consultation.