Divorce never occurs in a funnel. The process impacts those you love, including your parents, siblings, and close friends. Children, in particular, can be negatively affected by divorce, which may throw every element of the lives they’ve always known into upheaval. Despite this, it’s possible for kids to emerge emotionally unscathed — and to even enjoy a better quality of life. Here’s how:

Develop And Maintain a Routine

The chaos of divorce can prompt significant anxiety among otherwise well-adjusted children. The more routine you can build into their lives during this difficult time, the better. Begin by determining where and with whom your children will stay during the week — and who will handle their care during mediation sessions or court visits.

Resist the Urge to Badmouth Your Ex

Like it or not, your ex will almost assuredly remain part of your life after divorce. Barring abuse or neglect, it is almost always in a child’s best interest to maintain strong relationships with both parents. This can be difficult to accomplish if you are constantly complaining about your ex in front of your kids. When in doubt, keep it civil.

Let Them Express Their Feelings

During your divorce, your children may experience a range of uncomfortable or downright distressing emotions. It is not healthy for these feelings to remain pent up. Encourage them to be honest about their feelings, even when it’s difficult. If they struggle to speak with you or your ex, consider turning to a therapist for further support.

The approach your family lawyer employs during the divorce process can have a dramatic impact on how the ordeal ultimately impacts your children. Compassionate legal service is essential — and it’s exactly what you’ll find at the Brown Law Offices. Reach out today to learn more about our empathetic approach.

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Jason Brown is a founding shareholder with the Brown Law Offices, P.A., a northwest Twin Cities divorce and family law firm. He is an honors graduate of Minnesota State University, Mankato, and the William Mitchell College of Law. Jason has been recognized as a “Super Lawyer” by Thomson Reuters. Media appearances include WCCO Radio, KARE 11 Television, the Star Tribune, USA Today, Time Magazine, Minnesota Monthly and NBC News.