Divorce never occurs in a funnel. The process impacts those you love, including your parents, siblings, and close friends. Children, in particular, can be negatively affected by divorce, which may throw every element of the lives they’ve always known into upheaval. Despite this, it’s possible for kids to emerge emotionally unscathed — and to even enjoy a better quality of life. Here’s how:
Develop And Maintain a Routine
The chaos of divorce can prompt significant anxiety among otherwise well-adjusted children. The more routine you can build into their lives during this difficult time, the better. Begin by determining where and with whom your children will stay during the week — and who will handle their care during mediation sessions or court visits.
Resist the Urge to Badmouth Your Ex
Like it or not, your ex will almost assuredly remain part of your life after divorce. Barring abuse or neglect, it is almost always in a child’s best interest to maintain strong relationships with both parents. This can be difficult to accomplish if you are constantly complaining about your ex in front of your kids. When in doubt, keep it civil.
Let Them Express Their Feelings
During your divorce, your children may experience a range of uncomfortable or downright distressing emotions. It is not healthy for these feelings to remain pent up. Encourage them to be honest about their feelings, even when it’s difficult. If they struggle to speak with you or your ex, consider turning to a therapist for further support.
The approach your family lawyer employs during the divorce process can have a dramatic impact on how the ordeal ultimately impacts your children. Compassionate legal service is essential — and it’s exactly what you’ll find at the law firm of Barna, Guzy & Steffen, Ltd. Reach out today to learn more about our empathetic approach.