Avoid Holidays Together
In the future, you and your spouse may gather with in-laws and extended family on holidays, assuming you enjoy an amicable co-parenting relationship. This year, however, joint holidays should be avoided at all costs. Tension surrounding your recent split and the ongoing divorce process will likely make it too difficult to focus on celebrating this special time of year. Don’t put your loved ones through unnecessary awkwardness or strife; arrange for separate festivities.
Be Willing to Compromise
The first year is always the most difficult; once you settle into a routine, you’ll likely find it easier to plan holiday events with and without your children. In general, allow at least one important holiday per parent. For example, one parent may spend Thanksgiving with the children, while the other accompanies them to Christmas functions. Remember, you can always alternate celebrations in the future; for now, you just need to get through this year’s holiday season in one piece.
Consider Location and Family Traditions
Did you and your spouse previously spend each Christmas Day with a specific side of the family? Strive to maintain this valuable tradition. Your children need some semblance of routine in the chaos of divorce; don’t tear away a beloved tradition for personal reasons.
Take Your Kids’ Wishes Into Account
Older children should have a say in visitation, especially as it pertains to holiday traditions. Don’t force your kids into an arrangement they’ll eventually resent. Grant them input into your holiday plans. After all, you could achieve a full month of holiday parenting time, but still be miserable if it ultimately upsets your children.
The law firm of Barna, Guzy & Steffen, Ltd. can guide you through the complexities of visitation, especially as it pertains to the holiday season. Reach out today to get started with a case consultation.